As I’ve been clearing space in my home and simplifying things in my business, something else has become clear.
It’s easier to let go of what isn’t serving you when you know what you’re making room for.
A couple of weeks ago, I made a decision.
In October 2027, I’m going to Morocco on a business retreat.
It was a big decision for me, another financial commitment, a week away on my own, lots of people and no dog!
I initially said no, then stepped back, thought it through, and realised it was more than just a trip.
It’s a celebration of the life I am creating.
For the first time in a long while, I’m not setting a goal based on what I want to escape.
I’m moving towards something.
And that’s a big difference.
For years, many of us (myself firmly at the front of the queue) have been conditioned to focus on what we want to fix.
If I just lose weight, earn more money, get organised and finally sort everything out, then life will be amazing.
That is exhausting.
What if the goal isn’t to fix things?
What if the goal is to create a life you were excited to live?
That’s what Morocco is for me.
Not because Morocco itself is magical. Although I suspect it will be.
But because it represents something bigger.
It represents the woman I am creating through my daily choices.
The woman who gets to enjoy the journey instead of constantly postponing her life until she reaches the destination.
What’s interesting is that since making the decision, I feel really calm and I’ve found myself asking different questions.
Not:
“What needs fixing?”
But:
“What needs refining?”
That one word has been showing up everywhere lately. Refining.
I told you about that last week, clearing my physical and emotional space.
Most of it wouldn’t even be visible to anyone else.
I’ve always found goals tricky – pushing myself towards something. Now MJ is calling me forward.
The woman who steps on that plane is confident, healthy and comfortable in her own skin.
I am creating her through the choices I make today.
Will everything happen exactly as I imagine? Probably not.
Life has a habit of surprising us. But that’s not really the point.
The point is that the trip has given me a different lens. The journey is no longer something to endure. The journey itself has become part of the celebration.
The ordinary days are where the magic happens: a rainy dog walk, coffee and journalling, a glass of wine watching Rivals.
All those choices add up.
The life you’re creating isn’t built in the big moments.
It’s built in those small, almost invisible decisions.
One after another.
So perhaps the question isn’t:
“What do I need to fix?”
Perhaps the better question is:
“What am I moving towards?”
And what might change if you gave yourself something beautiful on the horizon? Let me know