For years, I’ve treated myself like a project.
I could see Future Jane, but she was always waiting somewhere ahead of me.
More successful, more organised, more confident.
I was always working towards becoming her.
(Actually, I was running a loop of going all out to be here, then flopping and saying I’ll start again on Monday. You know, that magical Monday where all change happens!)
But that’s been jarring with me recently, and I realised what it was.
I was feeling like I wasn’t good enough as I am, I needed to improve to get what I want
But what if I am good enough and releasing that allows the right things to emerge….
I stopped looking at my life through the lens of what still needs fixing and started looking at it through the lens of what I’ve already created. And there’s a lot!
Yesterday I spent hours moving furniture around my house. Not because anything was wrong. (If you’ve been in my world, you will know I spent the first few days of January doing similar with my Feng Shui friend.)
But last week’s internal shift needed to be reflected in my external world
I needed the space to reflect who I am now.
The same thing happened in my wardrobe, obvs!
And in my business, my routines, my relationships.
Editing, curating. Clearing out the noise.
I’ve edited wardrobes for years, and I’ve always known that confidence rarely comes from buying more clothes.
It comes from understanding what works, what fits, what feels like you and letting go of everything that doesn’t.
Perhaps life works in exactly the same way.
Not constantly adding more, but clearing space.
As we move towards the Summer Solstice later this month, I’m thinking something different.
Not “What do I want next?”
But “What deserves more of my attention?”
Because before we rush towards the next goal, the next launch, the next achievement or the next version of ourselves, it’s good to acknowledge how far we’ve already come.
When I look around my life, I see my girls, gorgeous grandbabies I adore, a business I’ve built over sixteen years, friendships that matter, a home that increasingly feels like a sanctuary and a growing sense of peace with who I am.
The woman I want to be isn’t waiting for me, not at a certain weight, or when I hit an income goal.
She’s already here.
And now, I’m creating the conditions for her to emerge.
So this month, rather than asking yourself what you need to change, perhaps ask yourself something different.
What in your life is already growing that deserves more of your attention?
What would happen if you stopped striving for a moment and simply appreciated what is already glorious?
Let’s refine not reinvent
Jane
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